Scuba Man’s uncle passed away last week. They were not close. Matter of fact, other than one uncle and a few cousins, he is not close with his extended family at all.
Except for phone calls, and sometime visits with my wonderful sister-in-law and niece and nephew, we mainly keep in contact with his family using Facebook. That being said, why the heck would you post a family member’s death on Facebook as a way to let the rest of the family know? Am I the only one who finds this appalling?
The aunt that made the post is the one that tries to keep the family updated and close. She sends out the yearly address and phone number updates to all family members and plans the family reunions. It’s not as if a phone tree couldn’t be started to let family know of the death.
I was chatting online with Scuba Man late that morning. I asked it he had been up on Facebook. He said no and asked why. I told him, without thinking, about the death. How freakin’ insensitive am I??? As soon as I hit enter, I regretted it. Did the same thing happen with the Facebook post? This is not the way to let someone know a family member has died, regardless of how close they are.
Has this become the norm? Have we become an electronic society for everything? I will be the first to say I enjoy using Facebook to stay in touch with family and friends. I love being able to chat with Scuba Man when he’s at work, because we can chat on our own schedule. If one on us is on the phone, the other will know because an answer is slow in coming or it actually says so in the status. Neither of us feels obligated to drop everything to answer immediately, as we do with a phone call.
The more I think about it, the more I would like to start going a day or so a week technology free. No computer, no mobile phone, no television, and probably no radio. For some reason, I have hated technology big time the last several weeks. I’m ready to throw it all out the window. I don’t understand it. Can someone please explain this to me?