Last month, one of my blogging buddies had a very bad experience. She believed, and quite correctly, that one of her other buddies whom she had shared personal information with, was not who they led her to believe they were.
At first, I didn’t know who it was she was referring to. One of our mutual blogging buddies was upset because they thought it was them. Apologies were made for not blogging under their real name. Posts were written about how they hoped it wasn’t them she was talking about.
Our mutual buddy seemed like such a nice person, so caring and sweet. I thought they were just being silly thinking it was them.
I had no idea she was referring to our mutual buddy.
It didn’t bother me that this person was posting under an assumed name. I don’t post using my full, real name. Nor do I have a picture of my face on my blog. I’m just Shell, and you know what Scuba Man and I look like from behind.
As the situation worsened, she stopped blogging.
She felt very betrayed by this other blogger and decided to take a break from blogging altogether, not knowing whether she will ever return. It is very sad, as she is such a great writer and such a good person.
A few weeks ago, I received an email, apparently sent to several people, from our mutual blogging buddy. This is when I discovered who the culprit was.
At first, it still didn’t bother me that this person wasn’t posting under their own name. Nor did it bother me that this person had more than one blog. That is, until I started reading the other blogs.
As it turns out, this person is hiding things. From their readers, from their friends, from their spouse! The person writing one particular blog is not a person that I want to know. You don’t hide something from your spouse as big as what they are hiding from their spouse, the person you are supposed to love. I find that to go 100% against my values.
The person I knew from the blog I usually read was totally different from the person in the other blogs they were also writing. The person I knew was totally fictitious, with a fictitious family.
I thought they were real.
Three of the four blogs that I know this person was writing seemed to be written by three different people! I was floored.
Now it was my turn to feel betrayed.
I guess it’s just the way I was raised, but I can’t understand this person’s thinking. Not so much that they had more than one blog, or that they blogged under an assumed name. What I don’t understand is why all this was hidden from their readers.
Why were their readers not told this blogger also blogs under this name? Why leave two different comments, as two different bloggers? Why pretend to be so many different people?
The thing that has bothered me the most is, I don’t understand how this person can hide a fact that is so critical to a marriage from their spouse. If you feel the need to hide something so important from your spouse, is it worth staying married?
But then again, are they really hiding anything?
Can I believe anything this person writes on any of their blogs? Are they even really married? I don’t know what to believe anymore!
I no longer subscribe to this person’s blog. I really want nothing to do with this person any more. I can’t trust them at all.
The whole situation makes me angry. This person betrayed the trust of not only me, but my blogging buddies. They betrayed one very special blogger who no longer is blogging because of it.
How dare they???
* My apologies to my blogging buddies that know the situation and may be tired of seeing it discussed in print. I just needed to vent. Now, I’m going to take a deep breath and walk away…